Working with the Anxious/ Avoidant Couple

Are you a part of an anxious/ avoidant couple and tired of all the drama? Do you love your partner despite all the heartache, and want to make it work? Do you want to make it more than work? Do you want to use the issues in your relationship as the catalyst for a MAJOR personal growth process, wherein through facing your issues as a couple, you learn how to face your issues as individuals?

I work with anxious/avoidant couples engaged in “the dance of despair” to heal their individual attachment trauma. Read about the anxious/avoidant couple and “the dance of despair” here. In our work together, I act as a referee. I am not here to validate anyone’s perspective nor am I here to take sides- I am here to coach each member of the team on what cleaning up their side of the street entails. Both sides are held accountable. Those who devote themselves to this work, will find that the way I coach leads through a healing of each individual’s attachment trauma that ultimately leads to their ability to show up for their relationship.

I hold up a mirror to each individuals attachment “stuff,” so that they can do personal growth work in order to become more securely attached. As a result, both individuals act more securely within the relationship. Studies show that participating in a relationship with a securely attached partner, can make an individual more securely attached. As a result, through participating in a more “secure” relationship, both partners become more securely attached as individuals. Working on the relationship is a way to work on the self- and vice versa.

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To learn more about the dynamic of the anxious/avoidant couple, read more here.